The psychology of pbh friends

ddluzdelsol says on Oct 16, 2009, 22:55:

Both...

But, define friend....
Many kinds of friends, no?

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tabla says on Oct 17, 2009, 01:25:

johann: How is Iowa? Getting cold? I described two types of pbh-er, so it is correct and not ambiguous to refer to the second one as the latter. I tend to write very clearly. To a fault, perhaps. Ever been to Vedic City?

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dwmte7 says on Oct 17, 2009, 04:14:

tabla, so i understand you correctly, "any two of the latter" would that be: 1) one who waits to be asked? and 2) one who always accepts? interesting dichotomy.
d

patriarch

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tabla says on Oct 17, 2009, 04:24:

No dw maybe I need to clarify:

The two types proposed are:

1) the type who asks people to be their friend
2) the type who waits till someone asks them, and then always accepts

My proposition is that any two of Type (2) will never become pbh friends because neither of them will ever make the first move.

My original post seems clear to me, but I hope this helps.

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jimbo67856 says on Oct 17, 2009, 05:24:

The phrasing is what's off. You propose type 2 as a homogeneous entity, thus there couldn't be any distinct two of that type in the taxonomy you created. It's like saying there are two types of automobiles, (1) cars; and (2) trucks, many of which have bigger windshields than cars. But with those choices it's like saying "any two" trucks are different than cars, despite the fact that for the purposes of the comparison all trucks were proposed as homogeneous yet there exists a difference (e.g. the ones w/ bigger windshields which isn't true of all trucks, just as those PBH'ers who wait for friend requests might not always accept).

My pompous grammatical BS aside, I've friended people and have been friended. ;) (I hope you realize I was jus' playin' w/ the preceding paragraph).

Errors of opinion may be tolerated where reason is left free to combat it. ---- Thomas Jefferson

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tabla says on Oct 17, 2009, 05:32:

Haha jimbo. Let's be friends! What I failed to explain (because I thought it would be obvious) is that these 2 types were not intended to be the only 2 possible types, but simply I am using these two (assuming they are common) for the purpose of the post.

I am possibly the most logical person you will meet, but I probably do assume that my readers are too. Mistake. Plus of course I can make a mistake, like anyone. It's logical.

Chao

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oneforyourmillion says on Oct 17, 2009, 06:12:

In my time here in Colombia I have learned not to use the term "friend" casually.

All that up in the high life you can have it. False rich, false friends and well a false life. Get down to the bear bones of it and you will find yourself, your friends and your life. Colombia can show you the way if you look...

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dwmte7 says on Oct 17, 2009, 06:23:

i make and accept friendship with the best and highest of intention..........that being that both (all) parties live up to the requirements and responsibilites of same.

patriarch

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jimbo67856 says on Oct 17, 2009, 06:29:

jaja tabla. I think I'm like you: I try so hard to avoid confusion that I probably create it. Then again, I was just bustin' your chops and knew perfectly what you meant. ;)

Then again, you never answered the question you posed: Que tipo eres?

Errors of opinion may be tolerated where reason is left free to combat it. ---- Thomas Jefferson

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emerson_wylde says on Oct 17, 2009, 06:45:

My interpretation of the post is :
"As a PBH-er, are you the type who waits till someone asks you to be their friend rather than initiating friendships yourself? Do you realize that any two of this type of PBH-er will never be friends?"

My response is that I don't ask people to be friends here, and I'm not sure that I would accept a "friendship" request primarily because I'm still not sure what "friending" someone on PBH really means.

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tabla says on Oct 17, 2009, 06:55:

Well my first few times I waited to be asked, then I got the hang of it and asked a few myself. It took me a long time to see any point in having friends here, and I am still only a beginner. However, I can say that I am beginning to feel some warmth in my interactions on here, so I am hopeful that this will increase. I still relate to pbh as a whole more than to any individuals, who are only beginning to emerge as people to me. It certainly helps if people use their real photos. I hope I will be able to post my pic with my esposa after 12 Nov. No doubt everyone has a different view of the value of pbh friends and it would be interesting to hear different views or experiences.

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utopiacowboy says on Oct 17, 2009, 08:39:

No friends here. I ask for none and accept none. It's man against man and God against all here.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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utopiacowboy says on Oct 17, 2009, 08:41:

"It certainly helps if people use their real photos. I hope I will be able to post my pic with my esposa after 12 Nov."

Bad idea. People will take these photos and use them in various ways against you. Don't say I didn't warn you.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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oneforyourmillion says on Oct 17, 2009, 08:43:

I just wish people would not post a picture of a hot chick when they are a guy.... Paisa lover has one and she was making me all hot until I found out she was a dude. hell that was the only reason I came to PBH. Oh well.............

All that up in the high life you can have it. False rich, false friends and well a false life. Get down to the bear bones of it and you will find yourself, your friends and your life. Colombia can show you the way if you look...

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tabla says on Oct 17, 2009, 08:51:

uc thanks for the advice. Maybe I should put a b****y husky up like everyone else.

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onthemoon says on Oct 17, 2009, 09:13:

I dont know yet if oneforyourmillion accepted my request.

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dwmte7 says on Oct 17, 2009, 09:51:

not to worry, it's the sport of the chase.
d

patriarch

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Oct 17, 2009, 09:59:

LOL OFYM. I bet p/c/l gets lots of sexy messages :))

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vicshere says on Oct 17, 2009, 10:23:

HAHAHHAHA you dont ask a person to be a freinds...you become freinds over time because of certain actions or interests

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Oct 17, 2009, 10:31:

I have lots of " friends" Lol, and actually I know just four of them IRL, I accept anyone really, except two but, they are not longer in PBH. I have asked one or two for the friendship but no one else. really I don't put too much attention to that.

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tabla says on Oct 17, 2009, 10:35:

I think it's time to introduce point two of this Psychology of PBH-Friendship Course.

If you are a Type I friender, and you have few friends, you need to brush up your chat-up line.

If your are a Type II friender, and you have a lot of friends, you must be very desirable

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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Oct 17, 2009, 10:38:

Go into it like you will meet one day at one of those PBH meetups! jajajaja lol

"PAY ATTENTION! I wonder if that person knows that when we push the FUNNY button, its because we are reading something outrageous, trying to be cynical, derogatory, sarcastic and/or obnoxious!"

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Oct 17, 2009, 10:43:

So Peter is very desirable :)))

the funny thing is, I am friend with ofym, we know each other IRL, he is in my MSN and was in facebook don't know why he deleted his account :S, we sometimes comunicate trough emails, but he has never been on my friend list not even when he was DG, GIB etc. I think we dont' need to .:S. The same goes with Ujay.

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bam m says on Oct 17, 2009, 11:36:

do they use the term BFFs in colombia....hahaaaahaaaa

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lpdiver says on Oct 17, 2009, 20:34:

Then there is the third class. People like myself and Douglas who didn't discover the nuances of all those hidden pleasures and invites. Hell, I think I had some invites three years old I wasn't even aware of!!!

Bottom line for me is it is kinda like those chain e-mails...I never forward them.


ts

Remember what the monkey says, "Fuck money it's free"

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dwmte7 says on Oct 18, 2009, 04:56:

didn't they tell you, tony....if you don't forward it, you're going to hell, to burn forever.

patriarch

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oneforyourmillion says on Oct 18, 2009, 14:16:

Kat is my friend, doug is my friend and who knows some of you others might be as well we just don't know each other for here? But making firends at a click of the button, well my friendship has more value than that. ;) OTM if your in Bogota look me up we can have coffee, whatever.

facebook is the favorite playground of hackers. I closed that door. :)

All that up in the high life you can have it. False rich, false friends and well a false life. Get down to the bear bones of it and you will find yourself, your friends and your life. Colombia can show you the way if you look...

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